by Lucia Baldelli
As coaches, our observations and intuitions can spark powerful learning for our clients. However, there’s a fine line between sharing insights and interpreting their experiences. How can we use intuition skilfully without leading the client? In this post, we’ll explore simple questions and self-reflective practices to ensure our intuitions serve the client’s growth and agenda.
As coaches we are invited to share what we notice about our client during a coaching relationship: observations and intuitions have the potential to create new learning and can be really powerful towards the client’s improved awareness.
However there is a risk that we might be interpreting what the client is experiencing instead of mirroring back what we see from a neutral stance. A coach who has an intuition – and thinks he knows what is happening for the client – has essentially made an interpretation and might fall into the trap of leading the client.
Then how do we use our intuitions skilfully without falling into the trap of interpreting for our client?
Here are some questions you could ask your client to stay away from interpreting, if you have the intuition that there is something new:
– what is going on for you?
– what are your feelings on this?
– what is happening right now?
Avoid “labelling” feelings and emotions and just be a mirror when there is a shift: this is a really powerful way to stay present, be responsive and observant with your client for your client.
Here are a few questions you could ask yourself even before verbalising your intuition:
1. what purpose is my intuition serving?
2. how do I stay away from interpreting it?
3. what is next in the coaching conversation to serve the client’s agenda?
If your intuition is serving the client’s goal and agenda and not your desire to take a specific direction or lead, then you are on the right track!
About the Author
Lucia Baldelli
Lucia Baldelli is an ICF MCC and ACTC credentialed coach and has co-authored the book The Human Behind The Coach. In her 20+ years of Organisational Coaching she has worked in multicultural environments, becoming fluent in three languages. Lucia is the founder of the coaching school Coaching Outside the Box, bringing her passion for unleashing human potential through coaching.